Relationship breakdown, no matter what the circumstances are, is difficult to navigate through. Overall, there is so much to consider such as children, finances, personal property, real estate, family relationships… and so on. Initially, the biggest hurdle, I would have to say, is coping with living without the other person. In particular, how we cope emotionally, mentally and even spiritually, not just in the physical aspect.
Back in 2010 when my ex-husband and I had divorced. It was obviously a difficult time. To begin with, we had been together for twelve years. Also, we created a life together. We had two children together. In general, we did all the things that couples who are in a committed relationship did together. For example, we bought a home, traveled, and shared memories. Years went by. While growing into this partnership, I changed some things about myself to accommodate and adapt to my life partner. Our lives were tethered together. As a result, I lost myself in our relationship along the way. It’s easy to recognize that now.
Like any relationship, sometimes there are sacrifices that have to be made. For instance, you moved to a new city because your partner relocated, or had an opportunity that was too good to pass up. Perhaps you put a personal important goal on hold because buying a new home took priority. Also, deciding when to have children could mean personal sacrifices. The list can go on.